Hey eveyone! We have a very special post to share today. My beautiful and wonderful friend, Elisabeth, who blogs over at Imma Walking Fashion Crime is sharing her amazing insights here on Boyless In The Burbs. Seriously this girl is SPOT ON and I just love her! Everyone should basically memorize what she has to say:)
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Hey peeps! My name is Elisabeth and I blog over at Imma Walking Fashion Crime. I post about fashion sometimes, love sometimes, and life all the time. My biggest guilty pleasure is Chick-Fil-A and brownies are my favorite dessert. I'm SO excited to be here on Kenzie and Amanda's blog!!
In a lot of my classes this semester, my peers and I discuss this trait of entitlement that runs through our generation. We're entitled to have a good job with benefits because we have a bachelor's degree...we're entitled to have nice things and socialize on our iPhones, etc.
While having a sense of entitlement can be detrimental depending on what exactly you feel entitled to, there is one part of feeling entitled that we have a right to: What kind of person we're gonna marry.
It's not even that we're entitled to it, but that we deserve it. Why? Because we have a right to select who we want to be sealed to for all eternity. It is the biggest decision we will ever make in our life. It affects our entire future.
Lately, this is what I have decided:
I deserve the kind of guy who kisses me because he cares about me, not because he wants to "get some".
I deserve someone who honors his priesthood with complete fidelity and values temple worthiness.
I deserve to feel supported in a relationship...that whatever I decide to do (whether I want to have a career or be a stay at home mom) he'll let me do it. And vis versa!
I deserve the kind of guy who respects womanhood and its sacred calling.
I deserve someone who will buy tampons for me and not be a man-child about it.
I deserve to be treated well.
I deserve the kind of guy who adores me! Someone who will buy me Chick-Fil-A because they know I'm addicted to it.
I deserve someone who is interested in what I'm interested in because he loves me, even though he totally hates it.
I deserve the type of guy who corrects me when I'm wrong, but only because he cares about me so much that he hates seeing me do something stupid.
As women, we are SO hard on ourselves. We settle over and over again because we believe that's all we deserve. Look for the red flags and don't be afraid to point out those red flags. Make boys own up to their actions and if they can't see that they're not treating you correctly, you are SO much better off without them.
My dad has always told me: It is SO much better to end up alone than to spend eternity with the wrong person.
And that's my two cents about dating because I firmly believe that if I'm doing all I can to be the kind of person I want my husband to be, then I deserve to fall in love with the most stellar man in the world.
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And there ya have it ladies and gents. You DO deserve someone stellar. Don't settle. Ever.
Go check Elisabeth out and show her amazing blog some love! It's seriously an all-time favorite!
